Ok, let's say your date went on well and you DID make a good impression on your "better half". You're now officially a couple and both very much in love. You think about him (her) all the time and see him (her) every day. BUT! Is this enough to keep your relationship going? Or are there some things that you just HAVE TO DO in order to stay together?
In my opinion, you:
*have to meet his friends and get on well with them, otherwise he will have to choose between you and them and will be frustrated,
*have to trust him although this can be very difficult sometimes.
What are some of your ideas?
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That is a very interesting topic. I think that the most important is trust. You have to trust in him or her. You muss not fallow them around because you don´t belive them. You have to talk with each other and say what is bothering you. You have to be real and say what do you realy think. When you meet his friends is the best thing to do, that you are yourself. If they don´t like you fine. But the most important is the first impretion. You realy muss not be too loud or traying to be too funny. You muss act like you known them for all your life and you don´t have to proof yourself to anyone. And you CAN NOR flirt with someone alls. If my boyfriend would do that...pfff..I woild snap him in his face:) so..watch out when the girls are made..:) Anyway... And girls-don´t think about the wedding and how will you name your children after the second date. The boys will get crazy and they will run away from you. I realy don´t have any others ideas. Because every person is diferent. And something that one hates, the other one falls in love with. But if you are not meant to be...you will bouth know. That just won´t be it. And if you last for 10 days....you never know, what the future will bring for you two, so just go with the flow and you will find out;)
Manca H.
I think the best advice to keep a guy is to still be yourself.You don't have to be someone you're not, cause if he is right for you he will love you just the way you are.You must trust your guy and you musn't anoye him to much.And I think that you shouldn't call him every five minutes and ask what he's doing , and where is he..He will think that you are to bossy, and guys quickly get scared of that.You should let him be in charge sometimes(not all of the time!!), at least at the begining , cause guys like to have everything under control, but that doesn't mean that you should let him push you and bossy you around.And you musn't tell him everything about you to soon, you have to be a litle misterios or else he may quickly lose interest in you.The most important thing is that you shouldn't be so jelous, example : if a girl calles him , don't attack him stop and think maybe it's his mother calling him :)And whenever you think that something is wrong, or if something is bottering you, you should tell him rightaway,and talk with him.I think that , that's about it...My moto in dating is : just go with the flow ;)..whatever happen,happens..If it's meant to be , it'll be ..If it's not you'll find out soon enough...Just don't be in a relationship if you don't like (later love) the guy.Be yourself and everything will be OK.
But that's just my opinion;)
MONIKA MILOJČIĆ
if you want to keep a guy, you have to be you and you don`t have to lie. you have to be sincere to yourself. if you don`t like some boy who likes you, you don`t have to be with him. you dont`t have to give him fake hope. if you will do that both will be unhappy.
i`ll give you one example: one girl met a boy, and she realy liked him. he is friend of her friend and because of that they were together. girl knowed that everything was not OK. Boy realy wasn`t felt good, because he didn`t like her so much, he liked her just like a friend. so in one week they were not together any more. in less than 10 days they weren`t together any more.
in ralation you have to be sincere to yourself and to your partner. you know if everything is not OK, because you feel it. in lees than 10 days you will know if that relation is for you. if you won`t finished it you will be realy unhappy and you will miss a lot of things. a lot of unhappy partners in relation wants that other partner will finished everything...but what if he/she dosn`t want to finish? you have to be brave and self-confidence and simle do that!
Anita Pavlin
Oh I realy don´t know what to say becouse if I will write, I write everything the same like Monika. I think we have a lot of in common when we tolk about boys =)
I agree that you must be yourself and that if you want to keep this relationship a long time you should tolk to your girl or a boy and clear up misunderstendings.
In my oppinion is everithing depends of ˝partner˝. Someone want you to stay with him or her a most of time, someone needs a lot of time for themselfs an their frends...and so on :)
I agree with Katja that realy important is if your partner present you to their frends that you tolk to them like they are your friends too, becouse (special boys) take you with her/his frends if he or she think serious about your relationship and see you in his/her future.
I agree with boath that if someone is made of eachother then their ralationship will be succesful, if thay don´t, than they can lear from their mistakes and learn how is life if you have somebody beside you...but every thing is depends about how they try to repair their mistakes and want to stay together .
Like thay said just go with the flow and everything will be ok =)
Katja Bidovec
...when a was writing I don´t see Anita´s comment so I wasn´t comment
her thinking, sory :)
Katja Bidovec
hi!I think that just be with someone is not enough.You must put a lot of work in the relationship or else it will fell apart!Of course you will eventualy meet his/her friends and just like Manca said,you must be yourself because they will sooner or later find out thatyou were pretending to be someone else and that won´t be good.You must never demand that he/she should choose betwen friends and you,they are a part of his/her life and you must accept that,even if he/she sometimes chooses friends over you,trust me I have had that experience and you just have to be patient.The most important is that you trust your partner and I know that it is hard,especialy if he/she have let you down in the past but if you don´t try again you will never know if the two of you can make it.You must also be sincere or else you can´t expect that he/she will be sincere with you.Tell him/her how you feel but girls don´t be too emotional!guys don´t like that!
All in all just take it slow,so that later you won´t regret your decisions,don´t forget that he/she won´t always do what you wont because you are not THE MASTER:) Be yourself and don´t think that he/she is the one,there are plenty of fish in the sea:):)
KATJA S.
...I come home and look if it somethig now hear and I saw that Katja join us :) I have a lot of work but I couldn´t keep back that I don´t talk about katja´s thinkig :) almost every classmates know that me and Katja are good freinds, but when we talk about gusy and relationship we hardly find a thing about which we are agree :)
I agree with Katja that if boy disappoint you, you must try again if he/she beg you, that you forgive him/her. Let say that you agree with your partner that you try again, but I think that you must tell him/her that you will forgive him/her but that you will NEVER forget what she/he done to you!
I think that you should show your partner (in the beginning of your relationship) that you respect yourself and that you have your principle, but that don´t mean that you are bossy and that you can be imperious. I think that your partner will respect you only if you show him/her how much you respect yourself.
...I hope that someone agree with me that respect is realy important in life =)
Katja Bidovec
ooo one think I forgot... I also don´t agree that boys don´t like emotional girl. I am very emotionl and I show (my) feelings to my boyfrend and he don´t use them...
I agree that most boys don´t like that but if you found the right one you rekognize that they exist =)
Good luck, if you look for them ;)
Katja Bidovec
I have to say that the comments of Katja Bidovec are very interesting to read. She always founds an answer to a problem and i am happy that I can call her my friend( i hope so katja???). Because she gives me realy great answers and advices. So if you don´t know what to do with a boy...just call dr.Katja :) And I have to say that I agree with all my girls. And from my experience I realy hate guys which think that they are the center of the world. But in the oder way...there is something on them that makes them so cute. And I found an answer how to lose a guy like them. Just tell him that you meet a guy who is more cute,more funny and more good looking then him:) And girl...you are history.
You can´t realy know a guy before something serious happens. And if a guy is grown up he will support you and be with you. But if he was just a child, he will say to you that he is sorry but he can´t see him-self with you in the future. I also agree with Katja when she said that the boys don´t like emotional girls. I think that the boys like when a girl falls into his arms, because he bouth her a flower. I think that boys like that girl first call him when somthing good or bad is happend to her. Or when girl cry when he say to her something that he is now sorry that he did. Because boy knows that the girl is emotional...because of him. Because girl would´t cry or smile or be happy if she didn´t care for him. That is just my opinion so have a realy nice day...
Manca H.
I absolutely agree with all my classmates, because every person has owns opinion about that things. In my opinion the most important are truth, trust and love. You must trust him/her, if you want to stay with him/her. But nowdays a lot of boys and girls are really disobedent and distrust. They should listen to their partner and try to keep their relationship.
I think every person must be something that he really is and shouldn`t play before their partner. The most important thing is that you shouldn`t always inspect your partner. Absolutely you can call him/her and talk with him/her or send him/her a message, but don`t do it every minute. I think that is good, if you sometimes buy a present for your partner. With this way think your partner really like you.
This is my opinion about a task 4 and I hope that you will like it.
SAMIR KOLENOVIČ
TRUST and GOOD CONVERSATION it's what it's all about!
What's there to say? You have to talk about everything and you should never be afraid to open your heart to your loved one. Never be ashamed of saying what you really want to say or it may cause problems. You have to feel comfortable around that special person and he/she has to love you for who you really are. It's the whole package or no package at all! Never judge eachother in the wrong way. As soon as you realise that, things can only get better and better. Trust is a big issue aswell, so if you're not sure just ask a question and don't just asume things, because that will cause a problem eventually. Also have some faith in yourself and don't doubt every statement he/she makes.
Love can be a wonderful thing if we let it to be. :)
Aleksandra Smogavc
Great work.
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